Guiding You Through Healing and Recovery
from Infidelity

If you want to know how to survive an affair, in this short blog I will introduce five things I have observed in people who heal. Each idea is something that I picked up while watching and researching thousands of betrayed partners over the past 28 years as a therapist. It is important to realize that there are many things that can help you heal, below I include five that I have found to be essential in the journey to healing and recovery.

Infidelity in a relationship often triggers some of the deepest emotional wounds imaginagle. Individuals report elevated symptoms associated with trauma. Fear and anxiety abound while closeness and intimacy are evasive. 

Sadly, many couples seriously struggle to rebound after discovery and end up living in a loveless marriage or they divorce. While there are solutions available most people attempt to heal without dealing with the root problems.

If you are dealing with marital infidelity, there are solutions. It will take time to heal but with the right resources and knowledge you can reclaim your life and live again. 

To get started let's look at some of the key problems couples face after discovering an affair in their relationship.

Marital Infidelity: Triggers Trauma

#2: Seek Support

Are you able to sleep? Is your mind constantly racing? Do you worry about where your spouse is and what they are doing when they are not home? Do you question whether your spouse's betrayal is your fault? And you find that you are angrier than you have ever been?

If you answered yes to these questions, you are experiencing some of the symptoms often associated with posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). While not all people experience these symptoms after sexual betrayal, a 2006 study by Barbara Steffens and Robyn Rennie found that up to 70% of women experience PTSD symptoms after discovering their spouses affair.

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Reasons for infidelity

I was recently asked this question, "What are the most common reasons for infidelity?"

If you want to know how to survive an affair, you must begin by taking care of yourself. It is important to focus on your physical and emotional well-being. This can include engaging in self-care practices, such as exercise, meditation, or journaling. As a part of your self-care plan, it is important to remember that your healing is influenced by basic things like eating well and sleeping. Many betrayed partners report that healthy behaviors escape them after they discover their partners' affair. As a part of your healing plan, make sure to include activities that help your mind and body.